How to Cum Multiple Times?

General Health - Dec 18, 2023

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Jun 04, 2024

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How to cum multiple times? And why can't most men experience orgasms more than once when women can? These are the most underrated questions many guys ask.

The simple answer is that it depends on multiple factors, including age, underlying disease, libido, stamina, and most importantly, the refractory period.

Medical reseach conducted in 2016 found that about 10% of men in their 20s and fewer than 7% of men over 30 claimed to have experienced multiple orgasms.

This said, there are some methods that reportedly help you shorten your refractory period and increase the chances of having multiple orgasms.

Before we dive into the details, let’s understand what the refractory period is.

What is the Male Refractory Period?

Simply put, the refractory period is the time immediately after ejaculation during sexual intercourse and before you’re able to stay erect again.

The male resolution stage usually lasts just a few minutes or up to an entire day and varies from one person to the next but is strongly influenced by physical and physiological issues such as a person's age, biological sex, and libido (sex drive).

Do you think that only guys have a refractory phase? However, that’s not at all true.

Even women do have such a phase, but it might be possible that they have a much shorter period. So there goes your first myth-bust.

To explain it in even simpler terms, the phenomenon refers to a state after a man is done having sex, which means his hard penis has gone to a normal flaccid state.

The study suggests that as males age, the time it takes to restore energy and get hard again in the seminal vesicles gets longer and longer.

Another amazing fact is that similar to the post-orgasmic refractory phase, there also exists a pre-orgasmic refractory phase.

This describes the time after first stimulation that some people experience a revival of sexual excitement, but before they experience an orgasm. So stay connected and read further for more exciting facts.

8 Ways to cum twice and have more sex

Sex is more than just a physical activity; it’s an art that requires a perfect sync of the physical body and mental state.

To achieve multiple orgasms, it is important to focus on both aspects. Keep in mind that there is no proof or technique to make yourself sexually stimulated frequently, but you can increase your stamina, improve erectile function, and even decrease the refractory period.

So here are those ways that you can try in the bedroom.

Let your mind wander off to the ultimate possibilities

Anything you do physically comes from the signals of the mind. If you think your genitals are the only sexual organ in your body, think twice. Because your mind is the one that controls and orchestrates the entire sexual experience.

If you let it be free to explore new fantasies, desires, and sensations, you will open up a whole new world of pleasure. Communicate with your partner about each other's fantasies and desires to build a deep bond.

Remember, if your end goal is climaxing multiple times instead of sexual stimulation, physical intimacy with your partner can ruin your relationship.

Be professional at edging

Again, time for a short guide for our novice readers. Edging is a technique to reach the point between peak orgasm and ejaculation.

It’s a method in which an individual pushes (sexually stimulates) the body to the extent of almost reaching orgasm but then backing off, delaying the cum.

Individuals usually practice this skill while masturbating; this helps them build control over their sexual response and prolong the pleasure.

Master your Kegels exercises

Usually, Kegels are recommended to those men who are facing issues like premature ejaculation and those who wish to avoid ED. Believe us, they work wonderfully.

To practice edging, one must have strong pelvic floor muscles, and Kegels are the best option here. If your pelvic floor muscles are functioning properly and help blood flow smoothly to the penile area, men can get and maintain erection easily.

In short, the muscles that control men’s orgasms are the pelvic muscles, also known as the pubococcygeus. If these muscles are strong, your orgasms will be in your hands.

If you are already in your 30s, you have to implement Kegels into your lifestyle right away because the older you get, the tougher it will get to control your orgasms.

Read here if you want to know How Long Can The Average Man Stay Erect.

Align your mind and physique

You need to create a fusion between your mind and your physical body. Breathing in rhythmic, deep, regulated patterns helps one stay calm and concentrated at the same time.

And what will help you with that, think? It’s mindfulness, meditation, and yoga. These are very powerful tools to achieve a euphoric sexual experience.

Surprisingly, this trio will help you achieve any sexual goal you have in mind.

Treatment for sexual dysfunctions 

Men of all ages can suffer from sexual disorders like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Luckily there are some medicines and treatments that are accessible that help men get erection and sustain it for longer.

Our experts found that the effects of Sildenafil and Tadalafil (Active ingredient in ED medications) last longer in the body which increases blood flow in the penis and overall body. This means men can get an erection easily for a second time just a few minutes after the first ejaculation.

ED medications like Cenforce 100 mg and Vidalista 60 mg can improve erectile function. On the other side, Super P Force Oral Jelly can also contribute to delaying ejaculation.

Shift your focus from intercourse

Avoid fixating all your attention on the act of coitus alone. Instead of exclusively concentrating on the physical aspect of intercourse, consider broadening your perspective to embrace the entirety of the sexual experience.

Intimacy extends beyond the mere mechanics of the act, encompassing emotional connection, communication, and shared vulnerability. By diversifying your focus, you open the door to a more profound and fulfilling encounter.

Explore the nuances of touch, engage in open communication with your partner, and appreciate the sensory delights that extend beyond the immediate pursuit of climax.

Refine the skill of climax without cuming

Of course, we discussed edging to extend the time of having euphoric orgasms before you cum. But there are some more methods you can explore to prolong ejaculation.

For instance, try the well-known method of squeezing. The technique involves firmly grasping the base of a standing (erect) penis to stifle the impulse to cum.

However, these days, you can use tools like penile rings if you don’t want your hands to do the work.

Set reasonable goals for yourself

We know everyone has some wild fantasies in their mind; however, some are so wild that it’s not possible practically in real life. Get it, what do I mean?

For instance, having an orgasm more than once in a row or lasting for an hour straight.

Realistic goal-setting may ease performance pressure and assist in controlling expectations.

However, you might not be entirely able to achieve that goal, but with sheer practice, you might be able to get very close.

Spice up your performance

As mentioned above, pleasing your female partner sexually is more than just ejaculation. It doesn't matter whether you come one or more times,  if you can’t understand what your partner wants from you, she’ll never be satisfied.

Adding pleasure gadgets (sex toys) to your sexual acts will help you venture into the region of increased sensitivity.

If you didn’t know, they also have male-sex toys on the market these days. For instance, an anal wand or prostate massager helps you explore the subtleties of the male G-spot.

Such toys intensify the path toward a full-body prostatic orgasm by adding a layer of stimulation when they are propped up within the anus.

Do you know what the add-on advantage of using these toys is? You will get multiple orgasms, too, without ejaculation and no refractory phase.

How long do you have to wait for round 2?

Unfortunately, there is no spot-on answer to this question because getting ready to have a second orgasm during sex is individual-centered. Person ‘A’ might take a few minutes, while Person ‘B’ might take hours to do so.

But why is it so? The refractory period is a cycle where every person’s stamina, age, skills, beliefs, overall sexual and general health, and so many other things are involved.

Usually, for young people, the refractory period may only last a few minutes. But in older people, the refractory period lasts longer, sometimes for several hours or more.

It depends on the person’s previous history regarding health issues. In the end, it’s about quality over quantity; no particular period is right or wrong.

Instead of thinking about how to cum multiple times, you should think about how you can give a satisfactory orgasm to your partner and please her in the first shot.

Some tips are to listen to their bodies, be honest with one another, and discover a rhythm that suits them.

Also read: How to Maintain An Erection for a Long Time.

A Strong Finish

No matter what your ultimate goal is or how many orgasms you want to have, remember to have fun while you are “doing it.”.

Because, in the end, what matters most is the journey, not the destination. Well, that doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t even try to cum multiple times.

As they say, “practice makes the man perfect," and the same thing goes here as well. It is the golden key to unlocking your sexual potential. So keep practicing to reach the second, third, and fourth orgasm without harming your sexual organs.